I am thrilled to be part of this embodied consent workshop together with dear colegues of mine:
This offer includes the 2 ½ day In-person Workshop, Integrating the Practice: Virtual Session and Individual Coaching.
Embodied Consent is a powerful awareness practice that improves the quality of your relationships, your skills in creating clear agreements, and experience satisfying and empowering connections with yourself and others.
We engage in a deep exploration of the nature of receiving and giving, Embodied Consent, knowing what you want and what your limits are, and how to communicate and create agreements with others.
This workshop offers a deeply nuanced way to practice consent as an agreement that brings integrity, responsibility, and empowerment into human interaction, starting with touch and relationships, and further expanding our understanding of consent to power dynamics and social issues of equality and justice.
Our work is based on the work of Dr. Betty Martin and her brilliant Wheel of Consent®.
The practice is simple, subtle, and profound.
You will come away from this offering with a deepened ability to skillfully navigate consent in all your interactions, including:
໑ Create a felt sense of safety in your body and nervous system
໑ Connect to what feels good and brings you joy
໑ Notice, value, and voice what you want, what you are available for, and what you don’t want
໑ Notice your tendency to go along with what is being done and reverse it
໑ Be mindful of others’ tendencies to go along with what is being done and respect their limits
໑ Understand two ways to receive and two ways to give and feel the joy of each of these four possibilities for interaction
໑ Make choices that support your well-being and connection with others
໑ Express your desires, limits, preferences, and willingness with more nuance and play
For more information, check out Dr. Betty Martin’s book “The Wheel of Consent: The Art of Receiving and Giving”.
What participants say
“Life-altering”
“It’s truly transformational work and so necessary for the healing and growth we are in desperate need of.”
“I know myself WAY more. I am trusting my impulses, my no’s and yes’s and I am able to voice them more clearly now. I am grateful for this modality. It is a gentle, deep, and foundational piece for creating healthy, safe, and intimate relationships with oneself and others.”
“Deeply grateful for the workshop last weekend. It has been sitting with me all week. The content and my experiences have made their way into many conversations since…I feel very inspired by my experience!”
This offering
໑ Meets you wherever you are in your practice – we welcome beginners and practitioners
໑ Is for anyone who is interested in learning more about themselves and improving the quality of their relationships – with clients, colleagues, staff, intimate partners, friends, parents, or children
໑ Is experiential – you will have plenty of opportunities to practice and explore
໑ Respects your boundaries – you will always have choices about how you engage with the exercises
໑ Deepens your access to the four quadrants of the Wheel – how to find them, feel them in your body, and expand where they can take you
໑ Is open to all genders, sexual orientations, and relationship constellations
໑ Will be delivered primarily in English with French interpretation
Format
In-person Workshop
Location: Lausanne, Switzerland
Dates: June 16-18, 2023
Hours: Friday 6:30PM-8:30PM, Saturday 9AM-5PM, and Sunday 9AM-5PM
There are several shorter breaks throughout the day, including a 75-minute break for lunch. Tea and snacks are provided.
Integrating the Practice – Virtual Session
Wednesday, June 21, 2023 6:30-8:30PM
Virtual group session offering an opportunity to discuss and explore applying Embodied Consent to your specific professional context.
Integrating the Practice – Individual Coaching Call
Deepen your application of Embodied Consent practice in both personal and professional contexts.
One hour-long individual coaching call. Schedule within 2 months of the workshop.
Training Guidelines
How we ask that you engage with each other:
1. Confidentiality — outside the group share only your own experience and learnings.
2. Feelings are welcome and do not need to be justified or explained; honor the feelings that arise in others by allowing them to feel without fixing or advising.
3. Share with intention, using “I” statements. Listen with attention.
4. Use the names and pronouns people request, and honor the lived experience of those in the group. Be willing to stay open and set aside assumptions about people’s identities and experiences (e.g. gender, race, sexuality, etc.).
5. The workshop is clothed. We will not make requests or offers for unclothed, genital, or explicitly sexual touch during exercises. There will be options to engage in non-sexual touch with other participants and it is not required. You never have to touch anyone you do not want to, and you are allowed to change your mind as many times as your mind changes. You get the full value from the workshop however you choose to participate.
What we invite for your own experience:
1. Invite a beginner’s mind — everything we offer is an experiment and an opportunity to notice yourself; take what works for you and leave the rest.
2. Participation can look many ways and you choose how you want to participate — actively join an exercise, witness, journal, take a break, and change your mind at any time!
3. Do not do anything you do not want to do.
4. Self-care and self-regulation — take care of your needs (for water, rest, movement, etc.)
Costs (includes the 2 ½ day In-person Workshop and Integrating the Practice in Virtual Group Session and Individual Coaching):
Ocean: 675 CHF (you have investments, can afford vacations, you can get this training reimbursed from your employer/company)
Lake: 550 CHF (you have stable housing, stable income or access to financial support, can afford occasional treats)
Pond: 300 CHF (working/living closer to livable wage)
Get your ticket(s) here:
www.tickettailor.com/events/helenadefelice/880114
Tickets are non-refundable. If, for some reason, you book a ticket and then can’t make it, you are welcome to find someone to take your spot. We invite you to be clear, listen to your YES and sign up for experiences you really want to be present for, and then show up!
Please be mindful that if you purchase a price at the lowest end of the scale when you can truthfully afford the higher ticket prices, you are limiting access to those who truly need the gift of financial flexibility.
Accessibility and COVID protocols
໑ Thank you for not wearing artificial scents (e.g. perfume, scented lotion, aftershave).
໑ This workshop is limited to 20 participants.
໑ We ask all participants to take a rapid antigen test within 1 hour of the start of the workshop. If your test is positive, you will not be permitted to attend the workshop. You may transfer your registration to a future in-person or online workshop offered by Helena or Rosalie, within 18 months of this event.
If these protocols present a hardship or barrier for you to attend, please contact Helena and we will explore options for making an Embodied Consent training accessible for you.
Acknowledgments About Race, Neurodiversity, and Disability
The course is open to anyone interested in learning about Embodied Consent, and our intention is for this to be a safer space that is inclusive. However, we recognize that this offering will not meet everyone’s needs. As facilitators and humans we are committed to serve you as best as possible. Please email Helena to let us know your questions or specific needs, and they will do their best to accommodate them.
Refunds
About the team:
Helena De Felice (they/she) is a Certified Facilitator of the Wheel of Consent® on the faculty of the School of Consent. She has taught Embodied Consent in a wide range of settings to individuals, professionals, teams, couples, and groups.
Puma Höflich (they, he) is a Certified Facilitator of the Wheel of Consent® on the faculty of the School of Consent. They work with individuals, queer couples (and other constellations) and groups. All their work is about connecting people, within themselves and the outside world.
Helena and Puma will be assisted by Rosalie Chevalley (they/them) and Delphine Lebrun (she/they).
Rosalie Chevalley is an experienced facilitator and educator. They will bring their experience as a teacher into the room and share how applying Embodied Consent in that professional world could look like.
Delphine Lebrun is a Certified Erotic Blueprint Coach™. Fueled by their experience as an Afro-descendant, autistic, and non-binary person living in Switzerland, Delphine works with people who desire to reconnect to their inner power through eroticism.