Shining light on the shadow – an Urban Tantra Experience; September 11-13, Stockholm

We are still considering, that this event might take place, so have a look here:

Hello fellow human being!
Are you curious about what’s around the next corner in your life?
If you stop for a moment to take a deep breath, how are you doing right now? How are you using your energy? What if you could choose at any time, what You REALLY want to be and do?

We are inviting you to an open and safe arena to explore the personal process of making conscious choices. An alchemical space where time is slow enough to make choices based on radical consent possible. A process that is meant to be safe enough to make it possible to explore and to choose what you want, wish and dream about.

This process is for you if:
– you are longing for more connection, embodiment, honesty, pleasure and magic in your life.
– you are queer, non binary, trans and/or a person open and comfortable being with people not conforming with traditional binary gender norms.
– you realize that you are in charge of your life but you are open and looking for tools, people and values that could support your next steps.
– you have been on the path long enough to realize that there is no such thing as the way only your way.
– you have been through this process before and want more. Each retreat is unique. There are new exercises, rituals and people as well as some that you will recognize from before
– you have a ”hell yes” and some excitement at the same time.

During the days we will use an array of exercises, meditations, games and rituals, our breath in different ways to support us in exploring feelings, needs, wishes, ideas and beliefs we have about ourselves. We will bring to the arena the possibilities of conscious touch, juicy pain and other (intense) sensations. there will be power exchange, bondage, roleplay etc. You can decide in every moment if and how you want to participate. There is no “right” way to be there, but ”your” way and we will support you in this.
The layout of the days:
Before: a questionnaire and a short interview. Reflecting on personal intentions.
During: Getting to the Island Ekskäret with bus and boat friday afternoon from Stockholm
Friday evening: from 17.00 getting to know each other, food and diving in more
Saturday: from 10.00 Exercises/explorations (individual, in pairs, smaller groups and plenary), mini lectures, reflections and rituals
Sunday: 10.00 13.00 Exercises/explorations, mini lectures, reflections + Setting sails for the future
Getting back to the city around 15.00
After: Follow up in smaller groups and with the facilitators if wanted
Language: english, love and compassion
Date: 1st to 3rd of May 2020
Location: The island Ekskäret provides a breath-taking venue dedicated to curious and explorative initiatives.The Island is about two hours from Stockholm city centre. Learn more here (Swedish only)
We will be surrounded by water and nice nature, there are two saunas, one heated by wood.
Cost: First exercise of this journey: Pay from the heart:
Means you first decide if you want to join: hm, yes, no??, maybe? Hell YESSSSSS!!!!! then you choose from your heart what to pay.
200 – 300 € is the minimum request,
301 – 400 € will help us break even and get some back for the work we do.
401 – 500 € helps us to get closer to a sustainable revenue point and others to pay less.
Please take a few moments to both reflect on the reality of your financial situation and check with your heart what number feels right to pay.
Whatever is right for you to pay, is right for us.
Cost for accommodation: in single room including all meals is 180€/per person+vat. We will have a chef helping us with the food but we will all support a little in preparations and cleaning up.
If you are tempted and need more information to come to a „hell yes“, please feel free to contact us via mail:
When you have decided to join, we will have a conversation via skype/zoom/fon with you, so we have a chance to get to know each other more.
There will also be a small pre-work for you to tune in with.
After the weekend there are possibilities to stay connected with us and in smaller groups with each other via skype/zoom in order to increase the positive after effects of our personal experiences.
As we would love to create a space beyond the binaries we want to create an arena that is open for all genders and types of humans. Both of us are quite aware of disequality in this world concerning gender, race, body shape in general and class, just to name some of those.
There will be space for about 12 persons.
About the facilitators
I am Puma Höflich. My preferred pronouns are either they or puma. Throughout my life I’ve had many gender and identity expressions. Presently, I feel most comfortable identifying as non-binary.
I offer one-on-one sessions for queer individuals and couples who want to dive deeper into their intimacy and sexual life.
10 years ago I discovered the world of Neo-Tantra. I began working with mostly with women. After becoming certified by Barbara Carrellas through her Urban Tantra Professional Training Program, I established a Neo-Tantra Beyond Gender for our german speaking queer community. I have taken several trainings with Dr. Betty Martin to become a “Wheel of consent” facilitator.
“I love to bring people together, challenge them where they need a little hint. I believe that we all are part of something that is bigger than we can imagine. My mission is to bring “peace” in all our hearts, so our souls can rest once in a while. Working with our shadows is quite brave and needs empathy and honesty for ourselves.”
About Pontus
My pronoun is he or they. It took me many years to realise that I am a genderfluid soul in a male body. I am a trained Urban Tantra guide and I believe that both sensation and power dynamics can play a vital role in personal development.
I am an actor, conductor and producer in Teater X, Stockholm and a trainer at Scandinavian Playback Theatre Studio. Working with the method of Playback Theatre as an embodied way of mirroring stories and hosting conversations across boundaries in life and in society at large. I have a master in Psychology and have specialized in the dynamics of change. For the last 20 years I have been working as facilitator in development of individuals, teams and organizations internationally. I am also catalyst at Ekskäret Klustret, a space supporting inner and outer growth that matters.
“I am thrilled about the potential of working with our shadows. What’s in the way is often the way. I also believe that we need spaces where we can feel safe in order to expand our comfort zone and find playful and safe ways of experimenting with who we are and what we might become. Our potential as humans is so vast if only we dare to challenge our beliefs”