„The art of receiving & giving“or how to create satisfied, balanced connections in your life, for queers and those who are in deep relationship with them

Why is it so hard to ask for what we want?
What gets in our way?
How can we learn to know what we want, trust in our own desires, and communicate that to others? 

Join me for a weekend guided practice laboratory to learn skills from the Wheel of Consent®. The Wheel of Consent® is a practise based on the idea of consent as an agreement between people, with a clear understanding who is doing and who an action is for. This practice allows us a much deeper engagement with understanding our own wants and desires and our boundaries and limits.

This workshop is about:

• Making choices – learning how to choose for yourself
• Waking up sensuality – feeling and following pleasure
• Understanding the dynamics of giving and receiving and taking them apart
• Understanding who is doing and who it is for – because they are different
• Gaining skills of empowerment and communication – noticing, valuing, and trusting desires, having the courage to ask for what you want, and feeling safe enough to receive and/or saying no or yes

At the end of this weekend, you will:

• Have a deeper understanding of how to know what it is you want
• Be able to trust and value your desires
• Better know in your body your authentic “yeses” and “nos”
• Be more awake to the pleasure of touch
• Have some tools to communicate your wants and your limits to others
• experience how much fun it is to navigate fullhearted with others

This workshop is for people, who

• think of themselves, they can easily say Yes and No
• think of themselves, they hardly can feel a true Yes and No
• want to strengthen their consent muscle
• want to create more clarity in their life and with others

It is for

• individuals
• couples of all sorts. Please attend to your agreements with your partner beforehand
• queers, trans and genderqueer folks
• cisfolks who question binaries in general and see themselves as allies in the ongoing queer struggle

No prior experience necessary. For those who have been exposed to the „Wheel“, and those who haven’t, there are always new levels of awareness to be found.

This might sound like a workshop about touch, actually it is about choosing. You can attend even though you know already you do not wanna touch anyone at all, and this might change or not.

Ready to join?

Location: Zossenerstr. 31, Remise backyard, 10967 Berlin

Dates and times: march 27 – 29, 2026
Friday 18.00 – 20.30
Saturday 10.00 – 18.00 (lunch break 13:00 – 15:00)
Sunday 10.00 – 16.30 (lunch break 12:30 – 14:00)

Cost:
320€ All reduced spots are taken for this workshop.

Language: English/German as needed (no permanent translation)

Please register here and don´t hesitate to ask any question at: mehr(at)magictouch-radicalconsent.com

Health Policy:
If you feel sick, please stay at home. If this happens last minute, you will get a spot in one of my next workshops. For community care, I ask you to test youself before the start of the workshop.

Like a Pro brings the transformative practice of the Wheel of Consent to professionals working with topics of consent, boundaries, relational intimacy, body
sovereignty, trauma recovery, sexuality, communication, and touch.
Originally developed for touch practitioners, the course has, by popular demand, expanded to include non-touch professionals like therapists, coaches, teachers, and workshop leaders.

This professional development training guides you into a personal somatic experience of The Wheel, and then teaches you how to integrate it into your practice, to make all your sessions safe, effective, and satisfying.

Like a Pro is for you if…
You have a professional practice and…

• You want to bring the Wheel into the one-to-one work you’re offering
• You’ve read the book and want to practice what you’ve been learning
• You’ve taken a Wheel of Consent workshop or been introduced to the Wheel in another training and want to go deeper
• You want to clarify the dynamics of working with clients
• You are a body worker, physical therapist, psychotherapist, healer, sex worker, teacher, workshop leader, life coach, intimacy or relationship coach, surrogate partner, cuddle therapist, tantric practitioner, massage therapist – if you work with people, you need this course!

Teaching team: Puma Höflich, Stella Topaz – Assisted by Kuem Plassmann and Julia Kleinen
Date: May 6 – 10 – 10.00am – 6pm each day
Where: Berlin – Moabit

More information & registration here.

Wanting as resistance. A Consent workshop for Queers.

Ever noticed the audacity of some children to ask for exactly what they want? 
How old were you when you learned not to do that? And why?
For some of us, the answer is something like “folks like me don’t get that thing I want.” For some of us, it even feels scary, dangerous, risky to want a thing. It might look like:

• not quite knowing what you want
• not knowing how to ask for what you want or even need
• finding it difficult to make clear agreements or set boundaries
• avoiding saying no because you’re afraid of the consequences
• having difficulty asking for help,

and for some of us, these feelings are rooted in messages we received about our Blackness, Queerness, Indigeneity, Disability, Transness, Girlhood, Neurospiciness, Fatness, or other identity.

This workshop is a place to have a more nuanced practice around consent that doesn’t stop at acknowledgement, but roots in the fact that –for some of us– our access to our fullness, desire, and freedom has been intentionally limited, through messages, models, and systems. 

We’re going to share tools and create space for both hard conversations and some Queer joy to help reconnect with your sense of possibility.

In this workshop, we will combine somatic practices, nervous system attunement, and some practices from the Wheel of Consent to get us all one step closer to pursuing our impossible desires.

Through tools, discussion, and play, this workshop invites us all to move one moment closer to this space: the one that supports us to show up with integrity, create and uphold clear agreements, recognize our boundaries and limits, and honor those of others. This space will look different for each of us based on things like race, ethnicity, gender, neurotype and many others. That said, access to this space is vital to everything from healthy romantic relationship to organizing action to child rearing (all acts of love).

Who is this workshop for?

• Queer folks and those with Queer Proximity* who…
  • want to create authentic and clear relationships
  • wish to expand their range of desires
  • struggle to express needs or set and maintain boundaries
  • often overstep their own limits or withdraw in relationships
  • want deeper access to their body and nervous system
  • repeatedly find themselves in relationships that don’t actually serve them

What you can expect:

• Introduction to somatic experiencing
• Practicing techniques to remain capable of action when the nervous system is activated
• Practice expressing desires and asking for what you want
• Exercises on boundaries, consent, and emotional self-responsibility
• Partner or small-group work
• Laughter and fun

What you might take with you:

• Better access to your “yes,” “no,” and “maybe”
• Tools for self-regulation and co-regulation
• A sense of connection with others longing for similar things
• More clarity about what is needed to create safe containers for connection(s)

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More on who it’s for:

This workshop is for folks with marginalized identities. Global Majority/BIPOC, 2SLGBTQIA+, Disabled, Neurodivergent, Fat, etc.
In addition, as the two facilitators are Queer (2SLGBTQUIA+), we are creating a space specifically for Queer folks. We also welcome those with Queer Proximity* who hold other marginalized identities.

*Proximity means deep lived experience witnessing, understanding, and investing in an issue. For example, you:

• are the parent/caregiver of a Queer child/human, or
• were raised by Queer parents, or
• grew up with a Queer sibling, or
• have a life partnership with a Queer person, and

This is not a space to increase awareness of systems of oppression. It is a space of respite for those of us who are targeted by them and feel the impact. If this doesn’t sound like you, please self-assess honestly and join us in one of our other workshops.

Workshop Details:

ONLINE:
Friday, Jun 12 – Sunday, Jun 14
10:30am – 2:00pm CDT (Chicago)
5:30pm – 9:00pm CET (Berlin)
There will be breaks in between and you are welcome to take even more if needed. No need to be all the time with camera on either.

Your facilitators:

Tunde J.O. – Coach, Facilitator, Educator

Tunde is a facilitator, educator, and coach with a focus on identity, consent, boundaries, and unlearning oppressive socialization.
As a coach, maer helps clients recognize their individual relationships to power and learn tools to address them somatically. Maer believes that supporting individuals in discovering more choice moves us towards collective liberation. 
Maer can also be found advising and working alongside organizations, institutions, and collectives to recognize and remove barriers to healthier culture, and align their work with envisioning and creating more equitable and restorative projects, initiatives, spaces, and communities.
Both practices are informed by mer study and application of the Wheel of Consent.
Tunde, also an educator and visual/performing artist, holds a BFA from Washington University in St. Louis, is a certified Diversity Facilitrainer through NCCJ St. Louis, a certified Big Leap Coach through the Hendricks Institute, a certified Urban Tantra Practitioner, a STARLING Healer, and a Wheel of Consent facilitator in training. In mer free time, Tunde can be found exploring the world through taste/flavor and taking copious pictures of delicious food, captivating skylines, and pets (mers and yours if you’ll let mer).

Puma – Bodyworker, Trainer, Facilitator, Mentor

Puma creates spaces where people can gently and sustainably reconnect with their bodies and begin to feel truly at home within themselves again. They also support people somatically in shaping relationships that are nourishing and aligned.
What sets puma´s work apart is not only the range of methods they draw from, but the way they weave them together into a coherent, deeply embodied approach.
He works in a privilege-aware, trauma-informed way, with a strong focus on safety, choice, and empowerment. and systemic layers with care and clarity.
For many years, puma has been teaching the Wheel of Consent®. He is known for making this practice accessible, nuanced, and alive—supporting people in learning how to make clear agreements with themselves and others.
Puma is part of the faculty of the School of Consent. One of his core goals, is to evolve the Wheel of Consent® together with others, always exploring how it can support individual, relational, and collective transformation and liberation.
„My work is shaped through the lenses of my queerness, my trans/non-binary identity, and my working-class background. These perspectives inform not only what I teach, but how I teach: with depth, humility, and a strong commitment to inclusion and justice.“

Please register here.

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